The next day I made plans to drop her off at a friends house and go to yoga. While at class and on the way back I thought about the way I need to be reacting and taking control of situations. I thought about all the ways I would talk to children that I worked with and why am I not speaking that way to my daughter. That whole day we spent with friends and had so much fun. Every day since then I have taken deep breaths when she starts to act out. I am so happy to see how she responds when I stay calm and offer options. She still wants what she wants and will let it be known but to be able to not have a tantrum right along with her feels good.